Veteran's Day

My grandpa's crew in WWII--he's second from the right on the back row

Today we honor military veterans. My military roots run deep.

I am an Army wife. I am also an Army brat (my dad was in the Army). So far--thankfully--neither my husband nor my dad have experienced war. I have several friends whose husbands have been in Iraq, and a brother-in-law who has been to Afghanistan. I honor you, and I thank you for your service.

The military legacy in my family goes beyond my life now--as a military spouse, and my life then--growing up in the Army. Two generations ago, my grandfathers fought in World War II. 

My Grandpa Jacobsen was on the beach at Normandy on D-day. If you saw Saving Private Ryan, you have some idea of what that was like. Absolutely horrid and gut-wrenching, but also a pivotal turning point in WWII.

My Grandpa Weiland was a B-24 bombardier. As I understand it, he was the guy in the bottom of the plane aiming and releasing the bombs. Pretty courageous. After he passed away, my dad did a lot of research, in part contacting members of my grandpa's crew. He learned that his old man was absolutely fearless, and "one of the best g*$ da@n bombardiers" in the service. He also learned that many of the men Grandpa flew with did not make it home.

My grandfathers, though in peril at times, survived the war. Many veterans are not so lucky. A childhood friend of mine is one who paid the ultimate sacrifice. 

Billy and his family before he left for Iraq

'Billy' (that's what I called him as a kid) was a company commander in Iraq. He was dining in the mess hall in Mosul when a suicide bomber detonated himself in December 2004. Billy left behind his loving wife and four small children. He was killed on his ninth wedding anniversary by someone whose freedom he was trying to ensure. 

We were living in Maryland when I learned of Billy's death. I was devastated. Billy's dad was my family's home teacher growing up, and I had an on again/off again crush on my cute friend. I remember racing him after middle school for the last seat on the bus, then cracking up at his dry sense of humor all the way home. I remember him explaining to me for two whole hours the differences between Alien and Aliens (the movies). I had no idea what he was talking about. I was just thrilled to have his undivided attention. So many fun memories, and such a tragic loss.

When we moved to Maryland, I made a goal to run the Marine Corps Marathon in Washington, D.C. Our last Fall there was 2005, and it was my final chance to make good on my goal. I was already registered when I learned that Billy's wife, brother, and sister were running to honor him. I decided to join them. I printed a picture off the internet, safety-pinned it to my back, and ran 26.2 miles remembering my friend.

That run was one of the best experiences of my life. There was so much support and love and honor for those who served, and many asked about Billy as I ran. When I thought it was tough or I became fatigued, I only had to remember him. 

The Marine's motto is 'Semper Fidelis.' As I ran, many shouted a shortened version, 'Semper Fi.'  Italian is close enough to Latin, so I knew the motto meant 'Always Faithful.' 

Those who serve in the military--whether 'caring for those in harm's way' like my husband, training other soldiers like my dad, fighting in war like my grandfathers, or paying the ultimate sacrifice like my friend--are just that, always faithful.

I thank you, I honor you, and I will not forget the price you have paid for the freedoms I enjoy. Happy Veteran's Day!

(You can read more about Billy here.)

Marriage survey

My friend Cathi is so stinkin' cute. We graduated from high school together, but didn't know one another--what a shame because we would have been great friends. A few years later, we were in the same study abroad group at the BYU Jerusalem Center. 

We became fast friends in Israel, and have stayed in touch ever since (15 years ago!). She is an amazing woman. She is the mother of 7 (yes!! SEVEN!! And she graduated WITH ME!!), and competes regularly in triathlons and marathons. Iron woman, she is.

Anyway, she has compiled a marriage survey for a lesson she is teaching. It's anonymous, with three simple questions. You can find it here. If you have a second, I'm sure she'd love the input.

Child labor

My poor mom. I was such a bratty child. I had all kinds of ideas and advice on how my mom could do her job better (never mind that she was already phenomenal). She can laugh about it now, but I'm sure it wasn't always so funny. My most infamous suggestion was to lock my brothers out of the house, make them pee in the bushes, and in so doing keep the bathrooms clean. Genius, right?

Now I have my own little consultant, so I know something of what I put my mother through. Her latest idea is to install a pole straight through the ceiling up to her bedroom, so she can zip right on down--fireman style--and not be running so late in the mornings. She saw it on a commercial, and she makes sure I see said commercial every time it's on TV. "Mommy! Mommy! See! See! Here it is . . . watch. Keep watching, keep watching. See!! Wouldn't that be great, mommy?"

There is, however, one thing I spouted off about that I have implemented. Child labor. I remember clearly telling my mom that as soon as my kids could walk, they'd be pushing vacuums. Oh, yeah. Why should mom have to do all the work? 

So here's little lovey #3 helping with dishes, or at least he thinks he is. He's actually doing more harm than good, and he didn't last balanced on the dishwasher door much longer than it took to snap the picture. 

At least I can pretend that my kids do their chores! Their day for pushing vacuums will come much sooner than they realize, with or without the fireman pole.

Candy check

Does anyone remember the 'razor in the apple' scare? What kind of an idiot passes out apples on Halloween--do you know how expensive that would be?! 

What about kids taking their Halloween candy to be X-rayed? Did people really do that? In all of Gav's years as an X-ray tech, he never scanned even one tiny snickers bar. But I know I saw it on the news when I was a kid, so it must have happened.

This year I did my own pseudo-candy check. It's really just my chance to pick out my faves. In doing so, look what else I found--

What, may I ask, are these little wonders? They look like cat food. I think it's some type of foreign treat. A honey-rice jobby from another country? Nobody tried them, no thanks.

And Easter eggs? Really?!? Why not throw in the chocolate bunny while you're at it?! Or last year's chocolate Christmas bells?

What little surprises did you find in your kids' treat bags?

Happy Halloween

Halloween this year was one of those busy/crazy/non-stop days. It began with the always-hectic rush to get Aubrey on the bus, this time in costume with Princess Leia buns in her hair since she didn't want to wear the wig. Then the boys and I buzzed off to take Gavin to a follow-up appointment for his eye surgery. Immediately after that was carpool to take Lincoln to preschool, then cruise on over to Aubrey's school for her parade and party. After her party, back to preschool for carpool pick-up, then home to spruce up costumes for trick or treating downtown. Then home for dinner, and more trick or treating. A friend had invited us over for Halloween cinnamon rolls (yummmm, more sugar) and there was a cute little haunted house just down the street. Lincoln wouldn't go in. Home again, and finally . . . bed. Aaaah.

Here are a few things I'll remember most:

Yay! My costume actually came. May the force be with you! (And also with you, I always want to say--it reminds me of Catholic mass when the members greets everyone around them saying, "Peace be with you." And you're supposed to respond, "And also with you." Or something like that.)

I  joined Aubrey for the costume parade at school. She had her big pink coat on over her Princess Leia dress, so she really just looked like a polygamist kid. Big ol' coat, long dress, funky hair up-do, and dirty, wet tennis shoes. Oh well. I, of course, was in my Queen Amidala costume with Jace as Baby Yoda; so hopefully people knew who Aubrey was supposed to be. She was sans costume at her party because, according to her,  she spilled ketchup on it at lunch. Whatever. At least Jace had fun and kept his costume on. He lo-o-oves juice boxes. Slurp slurp.

After trick-or-treating downtown, we came home for a quick taco dinner. Aubrey chose tacos because she planned to make scary faces on the tortilla--perfectly appropriate for the festivities of the night. She pretty much forgot the faces and just chowed down, jumping from her seat every time the doorbell rang. Then the kids went trick-or-treating in our neighborhood with our friends, the Newvilles. I loved their superhero costumes.

If you look closely in the picture (you might have to click on it to make it bigger), there is a masked man on the porch. He sat there like a statue until the kids came closer. RAH!! Then he freaked them out. So funny. 

All in all, it was a great day. And I think I had enough sugar to stifle my craving for at least a couple of days. 

("What, Gav? Cheesecake? Yeah, I'm coming . . . )

Jack-o-lanterns

What a strange little Halloween tradition! The jack-o-lantern is the most recognized symbol of Halloween, and apparently the term has been around since 1750 (you can read a bizarre story here.). Who knew? Second only to trick-or-treating, carving a jack-o-lantern is a much anticipated family activity for us. 

And I do mean family.  We each have our roles, and it's a great little system. Gavin (AKA Master Carver Extraordinaire) cuts, the kids scoop, and I separate the goop from the seeds.

Well, I guess the kids don't really scoop. See how disgusted Lincoln is?

And Jace wasn't too happy with the pumpkin guts either. He just about fell out of this picture trying to get away. (Sorry about the boogers.) 

So that leaves Aubrey to do the scooping. She does a pretty good job, as long as we remind her not to shake the goop off of her hands, thereby flicking pumpkin guts all over the chandelier and the ceiling. 

Oh yeah--because after roasting the seeds, I also clean up. But I don't mind. I'd much rather do that than carve. Gav is the pro.

Gav's amazing carving abilities are surely boosted by our battery-operated pumpkin saw. I bought it several years ago on crazy discount after Halloween. It's worked like a charm ever since. If you don't have one, you're missing out. 

This year my sweet hubby was especially heroic since he carved up our little jackies only a few days post-op from his eye surgery (notice the shaded goggles perched on his head). Not a bad job for a man half-blind, huh?

Election Day

Tomorrow is a big day. As citizens in this great country, we have a precious right and a moral responsibility to vote. Not all nations allow their people this privilege. Growing up, I remember my parents going to vote. I especially remember my dad stressing voting as a duty. No matter what the polls say, you do the right thing and let your voice be heard. You vote. 

My blog is primarily for recording events with my family. I'm not really a political type, nor do I get all razzed up about current issues. Goodness--I'm lucky to brush my teeth and make my bed daily, let alone keep up with world affairs. 

However, there is one issue this election that I feel warrants a little more. I know I have readers who will disagree with how I feel, and I respect their views. This is one of the great things about living in the United States--the freedom to think individually and express our views by voting. 

The issue is Proposition 8 on the ballot in California. I'm not registered to vote in California, but I feel that this proposed amendment has implications that go beyond the state level. The following information comes directly from www.protectmarriage.com:

Proposition 8 protects the people’s will and overturns activist judges.
In 2000 over 61% of Californians voted in favor of Proposition 22 to reaffirm that only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California. However, because this language wasn’t put into the state Constitution when it was approved, four activist judges from San Francisco wrongly overturned the people’s vote. In November 2008, Proposition 8 gives California voters the opportunity to reverse the court’s decision and restore the definition of marriage as between a man and a woman in the state Constitution.

Proposition 8 is simple and straightforward.
Proposition 8 contains the same 14 words that were previously approved in 2000 by over 61% of California voters: “Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.” By putting these words directly into the state Constitution, the court cannot strike them down as unconstitutional.

Proposition 8 is about preserving marriage; it’s not an attack on the gay lifestyle.
Proposition 8 doesn’t take away any rights or benefits from gay or lesbian domestic partners. Under California law, “domestic partners shall have the same rights, protections and benefits” as married spouses. (Family Code §297.5.) There are no exceptions to this. Proposition 8 will not change this. Proposition 8 protects our children. Proposition 8 protects our children from being taught in public schools that same-sex marriage is the same as traditional marriage. In health education classes, state law requires teachers to instruct children as young as kindergarteners about marriage. (Education Code §51890.) If the same-sex marriage ruling is not overturned, teachers will be required to teach young children that there is no difference between gay marriage and traditional marriage.

Proposition 8 protects marriage as an essential institution of society.
Proposition 8 protects marriage and the important role of a traditional family. While death, divorce or other circumstances may prevent the ideal, the best situation for a child is to be raised by a married mother and father.

YES on Proposition 8 does three simple things.
*It restores the definition of marriage to what the vast majority of California voters already approved and human history has understood marriage to be.
*It overturns the outrageous decision of four activist Supreme Court judges who ignored the will of the people.
*It protects our children from being taught in public schools that “same-sex marriage” is the same as traditional marriage.

Vote Yes on Proposition 8! 

(Now if you'll excuse me, I really need to go make my bed for today. Yeah, it's dark out, but I still need to do it. It's another one of those duty things . . . )